The publication walks readers through ‘proven method in privacy’…
What happens in the counsellor’s office stays in the counsellor’s office, but it isn’t always constructive, says couples therapist Ziba Graham Jr.
“At the beginning of my career as a licensed marriage and family therapist, I quickly learned that the traditional counseling methods that I was taught in graduate school don’t always work,” Graham explained. “My conversations with couples were depressing, focusing on their problems and who was at fault. We weren’t seeing the positive results that all three of us so desired.”
Graham knew he had to change his counseling methods or get out of the field altogether. He wanted to find and implement strategies that actually worked; that helped couples focus on the future, not dwell in the past; that produced results quickly; and that resulted in authentic behavioral and cognitive changes so that couples could maintain their improved dynamic for the long haul.
In stateside publication Fix Your Marriage Without Counseling: A Practical Method Men Will Appreciate, Graham shares the ground-breaking strategies he used to help hundreds of couples dramatically improve the quality of their marriages — strategies that often meant his counselling services were no longer necessary.
“It was always a great day for me when I got fired,” Graham quipped. “I decided early on that I would try to help all clients resolve their difficulties as quickly as possible so they could become interdependent, fully functioning people again, and to see that happening was terrific!”
After retiring from counselling, Graham wanted nothing more than to share his method with the masses. In his book, readers will learn how to:
• Communicate effectively
• Avoid laying blame
• Improve a partner’s behavior without nagging
• Leave the past in the past
• Use the miracle question to identify what they want and recall better times
• Recognize what is working
• Focus on the future instead of negative past experiences
• Determine what not to do and say
• And so much more
Insightful and thought-provoking, Fix Your Marriage Without Counseling is a valuable resource for anyone who’d rather seek solutions than wallow in problems.
“Using this method will resolve conflicts in usually three to four guided conversations,” Graham added. “By simply answering questions, you will be empowered to discover your own solutions. Most importantly, the problem or conflict is never identified, allowing you to focus on getting back to a joy-filled marriage.”
Ziba Graham Jr. has an MBA from Indiana University, a master’s in social work from the University of Louisville, and an associate degree and substance abuse certificate from Vincennes University. In addition to writing numerous articles on relationships, he is the author of two previous books, Better than a Stick in the Eye and God, Church, Life, and Other Essays. Before his retirement, he was a marriage and family counselor in Evansville, Indiana. Graham currently spends winters in Tucson, Arizona, and summers in Conway, Michigan. He is married with three grown children and six grandchildren.
Amazon link: Fix Your Marriage Without Counseling: A Practical Method Men Will Appreciate
Publisher: Wheatmark / ISBN-13: 979-8887471815 / Paperback: 156 pages
